Relationship Matters: Understanding personal space

Our relationships and how we navigate them keep evolving with the times. Often, we find questions or worries so personal that they can only be shared with a stranger, but any random stranger is no real solace! Nor is the advice safe. With that in mind, Star Lifestyle brings to you a brand-new relationship advice column from certified experts. This hopes to tackle the host of worries, questions and forks in roads of the relationships plane that includes the personal, professional to psychological.

Read on for insights, and shoot us your concerns, even anonymously at lifestyleds@yahoo.com, or send us a message on Star Lifestyle's Facebook page.   

I have been married for two years now. Initially it was all good but as time went by, I felt my husband was becoming more demanding and took up my personal space. I feel very upset about this, since I am unable to spend time with my own family and friends. Now, he wants to have children and I am scared that this will invade my personal space further.

What should I do?

-- Distressed

Dear Distressed

There are answers to questions that you need to find out yourself: Like, what made you fall in love with the person in the first place. What do you appreciate about your special person? What is very important to you and should not require any sort of compromise and eventually what are your boundaries that you want the rest of the world to respect, including your special someone.

Two years ago, when you got married to each other, there was a shared objective from both your sides. It seems like today, that objective is no longer there.  And maybe that's why you are feeling like he is taking too much of your space.

The solution lies within yourself. You need to start talking assertively about your marital objectives with your partner and be clear to him about your plans and vision.