We have been talking about anger management for last two weeks. Here goes the last part.

Take a timeout: When you have a hard time, leave the fighting spot intelligently (no rush) without making an angry face. Then ventilate your painful emotions to your well wishers. But avoid people and places that bring out your worst. Besides this, you may go for window shopping or doing something you enjoy. Watch good movies and have an environment to think about how to handle what's ahead without getting angry. Ask yourself if are you truly angry or you are in a bad mood for other reasons.

Use common sense: Even when it is justified, anger can quickly become crazy and irrational. Make the relationship your priority. Remind yourself that like everything, your recent anger is also not going to last; life itself is temporary. You are just experiencing one of life's rough moments. Do this each time you start feeling angry — you will get a more balanced view. Never jump into conclusions. Always fight fair and be willing to forgive. Only strong people can forgive — so, why don't you be one of them!

Early life: Sometimes you need to pinpoint the reason. Try to realise that we are not often angry for the reasons we think. It has been observed that there are some people — they are often angry when they don't get what they need as a child or during adolescent period.

After all these above techniques you might not control the situation you are in, but at least you can control how you express your anger. You can express your anger without being orally or physically rude. At the end of the day, be sure of this — you will be the winner — even if you lose first or second or third time. Always manage your anger first as mental peace is greatly needed and it is prerequisite for a physical health also.

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