Wild anger makes one irrational. Eventually that may lead to depression and other mental health troubles. Explosive anger causes lasting scars in the people you love; and is especially extremely damaging to children. It has been seen that angry peoples' faces become bitterer in their later life as compared to those who are calm in nature. So, let's follow some top tips to get anger under control:

Good people blame less

When something goes wrong some love to play 'Blame-Game'. The root cause could be their constant failure or inferiority complex. Many angers are from small humiliations day after day and triggers from a very small issue. Unfortunately, sudden anger at that moment is masking the true feelings. Smart and wise people fight to reduce their ego. Think before you speak. In the peak of the moment, it is easy to say something that instantly harms one. Once something is out of your mouth — you cannot get that back just like killing someone you did not intend. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — practice it. The intelligent try to compromise and forgive old unresolved issues.

Once you are calm, express your anger

If someone provokes/upsets you — react intensely after 24-48 hours. Breathe deeply and repeat calming words, such as 'this crisis is not permanent/nothing is permanent'; keep repeating it to yourself. Practice this useful technique seriously. Eventually, you will be able to use them automatically when you are in a tense situation. Because when you are angry, your thinking can get overly dramatic. When something goes wrong, you might tell yourself, "everything is ruined!" With cognitive restructuring, you replace those kinds of thoughts with more reasonable ones; such as, "This is frustrating, but it is not the end of the world."

Art of talking

Find out the difference between 'dirty words' and 'hard words'. Avoid words like "never" or "always". Extreme statements like "Over my dead body", 'I never did anything wrong', 'Why should I apologise'? or something related to your close ones are very irritating and offensive. Such statements also push away and humiliate your partner who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution. Stop back-biting habit. Make requests rather than demands and give priority to people you have taken for granted.

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