Published on 07:54 PM, June 14, 2023

Not fitting into any category at university

Design: Faisal Bin Iqbal

Do you sometimes feel alienated in your friend group? Is there a thread tying everyone in your group while you sometimes lose track of the thread and fall out of the loop? If so, you might be a perfect fit in the category of people who do not really fit into any category at all in your university. This is not the category of the stereotypical loner that goes to university just for classes and leaves as soon as they end. It's about those who are part of various groups but often find themselves questioning their place in the respective groups.

When hanging out with the smart or studious ones, do you have intellectual discussions that you really enjoy? But when that same conversation escalates, and you find the group concerned and inquiring about the exams you feel like it's time to run? No matter how much the nerdy debates excite you, you just cannot concern yourself about the upcoming exam and how that is going to affect your future.

It was about time you took your leave from the group of toppers. And who do you meet on the way but the Carpe Diems? As you can guess, this group likes to "seize the day", or "live in the moment". You are reminded of last week when you had spent two entire days with them living in the moment. Yeah, it was fun the first day, which started to wear off the next. So, this time, you choose to skip out, only to find yourself out of the loop with the group the next time you all hang out. 

Don't worry, this is all normal when you have friends from all corners of the university and the habit of drifting from one group to another. This is not necessarily bad. 

When you have friends all around, it certainly means you have got a friendly charm to you. That is an attribute to be treasured. With an aura like that, you not only make diverse friends who understand you in different situations but also gain or learn a lot from the different friend groups. 

Being part of diverse friend groups means you'll be opened up to many different situations and your experiences might give you a broader view of the world. Try to soak up as much as you can. It's an experience at university that's worth having.

Also, imagine all the tea you will be served with. All the drama to spice up your day-to-day life. However, make sure to not indulge yourself in all this. Try not to become that friend that goes from one group to another spreading rumours and adding fuel to already existing feuds.  

While the friend groups from Friends or How I Met Your Mother might seem like a dream come true, they might not always be realistically possible. Even if you are already part of such a wholesome group, with friends, it's always the more, the merrier.