When you're friends with someone, you start adoring them, love spending time with them, and end up trusting them. You feel the need to share details of how your day went and be there for them when they need you the most.

However, sometimes some friendships end in a very bitter manner, and friends leave without saying a word.

Questions often remain unanswered. Some days, you will blame yourself for things going wrong, leading you to send a series of long apology texts, even when you know they will remain unseen or unanswered.

Why do people enter our life suddenly, become an important part of it only to leave us one day, without so much as an explanation? How do they sleep at night knowing that the friend they used to share everything with, is shedding tears and staying up all night, drowning in an ocean of questions unable to find an answer to this deafening silence?

They shared everything with you, from the things that made them happy to the things that made them cry. During their most vulnerable moments, they might have told you something which nobody knew about, so why did they have to leave like this? To be quite honest, I still do not have a proper answer for that question. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try to hold on to certain people, they will leave.

 My friend of two years left me within a few minutes. I remember asking him what happened and why he pulled himself away like this. All I received as an answer was, "We shouldn't talk as much as we do now." It sent me into a state of shock because someone I used to talk to for hours, had devalued my friendship within minutes.

I used go through our old conversations right after he left me, and read each and every text, just to ensure that I had not done something wrong. Reaching the end of the conversation had led me to a realisation though: There was nothing I could do; it was not my responsibility.

 Here is the takeaway: it is not your business anymore. To ask how that person is doing, to ask them anything at all. You don't have to keep blaming yourself for their actions, the burden is not for your shoulders. It will hurt and you might not be able to trust someone else for a while. Every time you befriend someone, you will wonder if they will hurt you the same way. Take your time to come to terms with it, it's not easy to let someone go with all those questions circulating in your mind.

Good news is, if you have made it this far without that friend, you will probably make it further.

Angelina Nodee Francis enjoys cracking self-deprecating jokes and running away from her problems. Send her memes at angelinafrancis004@gmail.com