Relationship Matters: Insecurity

Our relationships and how we navigate them keep evolving with the times. Often, we find questions or worries so personal that they can only be shared with a stranger, but any random stranger is no real solace! Nor is the advice safe. With that in mind, Star Lifestyle brings to you a brand-new relationship advice column from certified experts. This hopes to tackle the host of worries, questions and forks in roads of the relationships plane that includes the personal, professional to psychological.

Read on for insights, and shoot us your concerns, even anonymously at lifestyleds@yahoo.com, or send us a message on Star Lifestyle's Facebook page.

My girlfriend is asking for my Facebook password. Should I give it to her?

-- Troubled

Dear Troubled,

Instead of giving your password, to her, ask yourself: why is your partner insecure about you in the first place? Why does she want the password to your personal device?

Is there anything related to your recent or past behavior that made her feel insecure? Or does it have something to do with her own her life experience (you both need to explore this subject-matter together.) 

Finally, all being said, trust is an inevitable component of any kind of relationship in life, so earn her trust first, by making her feel secure about you.

And also, you need to realise that to lead a healthy life, we all need to have some sort of set boundaries, without these, every life becomes super complicated. If you think it's not ok for someone to look into your private matters, then that boundary should be explained and drawn with real care — no matter what.

Hope this helps.