Hear us out before you roll your eyes. Understanding a man's thoughts may occasionally feel like deciphering ancient hieroglyphs, even though relationships are a two-way street. While no two men are the same, there are certain universal truths that most men wish women knew — truths that could make the dynamics smoother, funnier, and infinitely more relatable. Yes, we're talking about the man's perspective.

There is a method to our madness, even though men may not always mean what they say or say what they mean. With tips to help you handle your relationship with humour and, hopefully, less headaches, this story decodes the mystery that is the typical Bangladeshi male.

The "What to eat" dilemma: Yes, it's a trap for us too

If there's one universal truth about relationships, it's that deciding what to eat is a game no one wins. You think we enjoy saying, "Tomar iccha"? It's a survival strategy. We've learned from experience that naming a place or dish will inevitably be met with "Na, oita khawar mood nai." The next time you ask him what to eat, give him two specific options: "Tehari or pizza?" It'll save both of you 30 minutes of frustration and one awkward silence.

"What are you thinking?": It's not as deep as you think

Ladies, when you ask us, "What are you thinking?" and we say, "Nothing," we're not hiding some grand secret. We're literally thinking about nothing. Us men can go on standby mode just like your laptop — or maybe something silly, like why people say "Thanda Cold drinks." If you want us to open up, ask about something specific.

"I'm fine" is red alert

You know how you have a certain tone when you say, "Nothing"? We've learned to decode that as "I am very much not fine." But here's the kicker: we often don't know why you're upset, and we're terrified of guessing wrong. If something's bothering you, just tell us straight up. Trust me, we'd rather face the wrath now than go through an interrogation later that feels like a CID episode.

Yes, we do notice the little things

We might not always say it, but we notice the small things you do. The way you laugh when a vendor calls you "apu", or how you insist on eating fuchka from that one specific stall in Dhanmondi because "the tamarind water tastes purer." Just because we don't verbalise it doesn't mean we don't appreciate it. And yes, sometimes we're genuinely clueless about what needs to be said out loud. A little nudge helps.

The art of "radio silence"

There's a sacred rule among men that sometimes the best way to win an argument is to lose it — silently. If your man goes radio silent mid-discussion, it's not because he's ignoring you; he's simply retreating to the mental fortress of solitude. Give him a moment to recover. When he says "Sorry," accept it. Don't hit him with a "Ki'r jonne sorry bolchho?" You're just resetting the whole cycle.

Hobbies matter: Even cricket

Whether it's cricket, football, or collecting obscure car parts from Motijheel, every Bangladeshi man has a passion that doesn't always make sense to you. It's not about the activity itself; it's about having a slice of life that's just his. Let him have his hobby. And if you casually mention "Kohli played well yesterday," watch how his eyes light up like he just found biriyani in the fridge.

We're not mind readers

Here's the thing—we're not always as perceptive as you think. If you're dropping hints about wanting to visit that new café in Gulshan, just say it. Otherwise, we'll assume you're happy eating cup noodles at home. Clear communication beats cryptic clues every time. The fewer riddles, the better for both of us.

Relationships, like shutkis, are an acquired taste. They require patience, compromise, and the occasional willingness to let things slide. From a man's perspective, most of us genuinely want to do better—we just need a little guidance, a lot of forgiveness, and maybe a plate of tehari to seal the deal.

So, ladies, take these insights with a pinch of salt and a dash of humour. After all, the quirks and chaos are what make relationships worth it. Or, at the very least, give you something to laugh about over cha.