In many Bangladeshi households, parents hesitate to talk to their children about body safety. Conversations around personal boundaries and inappropriate touch are often avoided; however, silence does not protect children. In fact, it makes them more vulnerable. Teaching children about safe and unsafe touch is not about making them fearful – it is about empowering them. It helps them understand their own bodies, recognise inappropriate behaviour, and speak up if they feel uncomfortable.

Breaking the silence

According to Dr Helal Uddin Ahmed, Professor of Child, Adolescent, and Family Psychiatry, the lack of open discussion leaves children vulnerable to abuse. He informs, "In many cases, if a child tries to bring up concerns about inappropriate behaviour or discomfort, their concerns are ignored or dismissed. This lack of communication creates an unsafe environment for children, making them vulnerable."

Abuse is not always committed by strangers; in most cases, it comes from someone the child knows and trusts. Without guidance, children may not recognise when something is wrong, and even if they do, they may not feel safe enough to speak up. This is why body safety education needs to begin early and be woven naturally into everyday conversations.

Using the right language

One of the biggest mistakes parents make is using euphemisms instead of the correct names for body parts. This can lead to confusion and make it difficult for children to report inappropriate behaviour. Dr Ahmed emphasises the importance of clear and accurate language: "We must first clarify certain fundamental differences in terminology. When talking about body parts, we often find that the correct anatomical names are not always used; instead, alternative or euphemistic names are introduced".

He says, adding, "This, however, should be avoided. Children must learn the accurate names for their body parts in their own language from an early age, which can help to foster a sense of ownership over their personal space and privacy."

When children can confidently name their body parts, they are less likely to be manipulated or silenced. They shoud also be taught that their private areas are their own, and no one should touch them unless it's for a valid reason, like a doctor's check-up with a parent's permission.

Teaching boundaries through everyday moments

Conversations about safe and unsafe touch do not have to be formal. Simple reminders during bath time, dressing, or bedtime – like "Your body belongs to you, and you can always say no if something feels wrong" – can reinforce bodily autonomy.

Dr Ahmed highlights the "Underwear Rule", which teaches children that private areas – covered by undergarments – should not be touched by others.

"Establishing clear boundaries from a young age helps children recognise inappropriate behaviour and seek help when necessary," he explains.

Children should also know that secrets about body safety are never okay. If someone tells them, "Don't tell your parents" — that is a red flag.

Boys are at risk, too

A common misconception in our society is that only girls need protection. This belief is dangerous. Boys can also be victims of abuse, and because of societal expectations, they may feel even more pressure to stay silent.

Dr Ahmed emphasises, "Another common misconception is that only girls are vulnerable to abuse. Research conducted globally shows that one in four girls faces some form of abuse. However, this does not mean that boys are safe from harm. The belief that boys are not at risk is a dangerous misconception that needs to be addressed."

Every child, regardless of gender, needs to learn about body safety. Parents must reassure their sons that if they ever feel uncomfortable or unsafe, they have the right to speak up.

Creating a safe space for communication

Perhaps, the most important step parents can take is to create an environment where children feel safe to talk. A child who knows they will be listened to is more likely to report something wrong. However, many parents in Bangladesh do not know how to have these conversations.

Dr Ahmed emphasises that awareness programmes should focus not only on children but also on parents, helping them communicate about body safety in a sensitive, age-appropriate way.

Above all, the most effective way to prevent abuse is through education, open communication, and creating safe spaces for children to express themselves. The more we talk, the safer our children will be. As parents, teachers, and caregivers, we must break the silence because an informed child is a protected child.